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Q&A: Help! Why have I met my twin flame?* How do I cut the cord?

You’ve met a soul connection/twin flame* because you have work to do.

There are things that you need to change and overcome. You need to break free from old habits and learn new ways. You need to get your energy flowing. Basically, you need to a) get a reading on what your lesson is, then b) learn to balance your energy which will help you transcend the lesson.


Q. “Why do I still feel connected to my twin flame?”

Because you still haven’t transcended those lessons. Get a reading on your KARMA/LESSON and find out exactly what you need to do.

Once you have done this, you will still care for them but you will no longer be at their mercy. Ie your happiness will not depend on them! You will be able to take or leave a relationship with them.


Q. “But there’s nothing wrong with me, I don’t need to change – it’s my twin flame who is the problem and who is running”

Look again. BOTH of you need to transcend some big lessons. And if you still feel like you need/want to be with them, you have not learnt the lesson. Once the lesson is learnt you won’t care if they learn their lesson and accept the connection or not.


Q. I want to cut the cord between us so I can be free.

Learn your lesson, then you won’t feel the connection any more. You will feel free and powerful instead. Which is much better than being dependent on someone else for your happiness.


Q. I’ve done all the work but I still feel the connection with my twin.

If that’s the case then you HAVEN’T done all the work. When you do the work, you won’t feel them any more. You will be free and have peace. Who knows… they might even come back! The ONLY connections I have heard of where the runner comes back is when the stayer does energy work, learns their lessons and no longer needs them…


Q. I have been working on my spirituality for years and I am still feeling the connection.

Length of time does NOT equal success. You can transcend your lessons, and the connection, within a few weeks, even days! with the right techniques. The key is to do the RIGHT work. And the right work will be the work you’ve been avoiding. It won’t be in your comfort zone. SO you’ll do it last when you’ve been around the merry-go-round a few thousand times.If you want to get off the hamster wheel and get your power back, I recommend doing energy work with Steve Gunn (, who helped me through my three huge connections.



* I have used the term twin flame so that you know that yes I am talking to you, but here is my view on the twin flame label.

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Soul mate #3: What went down

You might remember me posting briefly about the entrance of major soul mate number three.

I met him a few months ago now, and since then I have been working with energy worker Steve Gunn to work through my lesson. Because I have learnt that if I meet a soul mate, it’s time to do some work and there’s a big lesson to be learnt!

I have to say that the bigger the soul mate, the bigger the lesson. This is my strongest soul connection yet, and this lesson has been so much harder than the previous ones. It just goes to show that we are constantly growing and being tested, and that even when we think we can’t grow any more… yep we can!

The lesson this time was ‘don’t give away your power’, and I had to work on something that I have been doing since I was about 3. Since I was a child, I have been toning down my energy for certain people who I felt were ‘important’ or who I wanted to please. This was a habit taught to me by my dad, who I looked up to and very much wanted to please. This began the trend of me dialing down my power with certain people… and it has done me no favours over the years.

But no more! I brought up all those old triggers and did some work on my energy, and the karma to this soul connection has gone.

I still care for him but I don’t need him in any way. Reverse back to a few months ago when I felt the world was going to end if we couldn’t be together…

So, I want all you readers to be aware that you DON’T have to wait for your soul connection to come back. Maybe they’ve run? Maybe they deny the connection? Maybe they’re going back and forwards like a yo-yo? Whatever is happening, you need to look at yourself and be brutally honest. What is MY issue? What am I supposed to learn from this? Often we can easily see the problems of our soul partner… but it is harder to see our own issues. And if you have met a connection, there WILL be issues. Connections are never one-sided.

Beware of self-diagnosing though… we often can’t clearly see our own lessons, so it is best to get an energy worker to READ YOUR KARMA/LESSON and you can go from there. I could not have seen my lesson if not for Steve… I am forever grateful for his help.


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Love = pain?

Most of you will say that love is painful. And I would have agreed with you a few years ago.

The soul-wrenching pain that occurs when you separate from a soul mate seems to point to that correlation.

BUT it is actually not true.

Love and pain do not go together – NEED and pain go hand in hand,

When you NEED someone, that’s where the pain is… because need is a two-way street. You need the other person to reciprocate. However, when you love someone (minus that need), it is just love… there is actually no pain involved.

So, how do we achieve this love without need? As always, the answer is ENERGY WORK. When we choose the right energy techniques, we can remain balanced and a byproduct of this is that we don’t need anything from anyone – including reciprocal love/need. We just learn to live inside that love.

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We cannot control emotions. They control us

Emotions are our soul… they are the energy that lives on after our body dies. And they are the universe’s way of guiding us. Have you ever heard the term “gut feeling”? Well that’s your emotions/energy/soul, and sometimes it is the universe guiding us through these feelings.

So, feeling each emotion fully is vital to emotional health, and indeed spiritual evolution. If we are balanced and are listening to our inner instincts, we will progress quicker through what we need to learn.

We cannot avoid emotions. They are part of us. Instead, we must learn to ride the emotional waves and not get drowned.

And to do that, we need to learn energy work techniques.

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Needing to be needed

I once met a guy online. On the surface, he seemed “enlightened”. He was a Buddhist and helped people for a living. We got chatting and we got along. We arranged to meet for coffee, but the only time we could meet was two weeks later due to conflicting schedules.

Once we’d set the date, I went along with life, looking forward to our coffee. He sent me “hey how’s your day been” messages twice a day, which was fine to begin with… I love a conversation but it has to have a point to it. I would answer by dropping some ‘conversation starters’, but he wouldn’t take the bait. The conversation was to stay at the ultra-superficial “hey was your day” level. His answer to me was usually “yeah, pretty good”. I wasn’t able to take the conversation any further despite my own carefully crafted questions.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt for a few days, but this trend continued. There was no actual ‘getting to know each other’. It was just checking in. Twice a day. Same cycle.

I realised that he was actually very ‘needy’ and he needed to keep letting me know that he was still around. Because the date was so far in the future, he was ‘keeping his foot in the door’.

But his neediness drove me away. I ended up dreading his messages because they were just stroking his ego. He needed to be needed.

In the end, I realised I had a choice: I could either let him carry on this tedious check-in twice a day or I could maintain my boundaries by telling him that I wasn’t enjoying the check-in and that by all means, I would love to move the conversation to something more ‘real’.

So I told him, in the nicest, warmest, politest way possible. And he blocked me.

Which in the end, was fine… it was a blessing… it saved me from a date which would probably have gone nowhere. And I learnt something from it, and perhaps he did too.


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Sleepless in Seattle 2 and soul connections: What happened next?

I’ve just rewatched the movie Sleepless in Seattle for the first time since it came out in 1993. When I first watched it I was in high school and I had not yet experienced a soul connection, so for me this was the first time I had watched it since having experienced some powerful connections of my own.

I was stunned at how accurate the portrayal of a soul connection (twin flame, whatever you want to label it) was.

It portrayed all the synchronicities (those “meaningful coincidences”) that showed Sam and Annie that they were dealing with something extraordinary.

It portrayed how they loved each other before they had even met.

It portrayed how even though they had not met, they were obsessed with each other. They couldn’t stop thinking about each other! They thought they were crazy.

It portrayed how even Sam’s son was instrumental in them meeting (which happened to me with my own son).

It portrayed how when they finally did meet face to face, no words were needed – they just started at each other in awe. Yep, been there…

But the movie finishes as soon as they meet for the first time. So, what would have happened next?

Based on what usually happens with these connections – and remembering that we only meet soul connections/twin flames when it is time to CHANGE because we’ve got serious lessons to learn –  this is how Sleepless in Seattle 2 would have gone down:

Sam and Annie would have had a blissful few months together. They would have realised they just “knew” each other. They would have felt like “home” for each other. The sex would have been out of this world.

They also would have triggered each other. All their fears would have come up. It would have been like looking in a mirror, and maybe sometimes they wouldn’t like what they saw.

Just when things were going SO WELL, just when the love was growing stronger and stronger (despite them feeling it couldn’t possibly get any more wonderful/passionate), BOOM! One of them would have freaked out and RAN AWAY.

Let’s say it was Sam who ran. All his fears would have come up – his fear of abandonment (his wife had died, after all), his feeling that he was not good enough for Annie… that she deserved more (because he feels he’s not worthy of her), his feeling of loss of control (this is the big one!!) Sam feels like he cannot control his emotions – they are so huge. So he DOES A RUNNER.

Annie is left shocked. What was wrong with Sam? Didn’t he love her?? Did he just lie about his feelings all this time?

His actions said he didn’t care, but in her heart she knew he did.

So she tries to pull him… tries to get him to come back. He comes back for a time, but the same thing happens again. He freaks out and RUNS. This time for good… he won’t answer any of Annie’s calls.

Months have gone by. Sam has not said a word. So Annie starts to go a little crazy. Her heart says Sam loves her but her head says “but he has gone!” Annie begins to consult psychics and fortune tellers, hoping that she can gain some control over the situation. And trying to get to the bottom of Sam’s behaviour. One fortune teller will say “oh he loves you, he is coming back!” The next fortune teller says “he doesn’t care about you”. What???

Then Annie makes a discovery – she finds out that Sam is dating another woman and has asked her to marry him!

Annie finally falls into a big pit of despair. She hits rock bottom. Everything she has ever dreamt of has been ripped away from her. Her chance to be happy with her one and only twin flame/soul mate is gone. Everything she thought she needed had been taken away from her.

She continues to seek out fortune tellers. They keep giving her mixed messages. She is finding it hard to function. She is not really “living”, just existing.

Sleepless in Seattle 2 can span YEARS if Annie doesn’t do what she needs to do (that is, learn her lesson). It can turn into Groundhog Day if she’s not careful. If Annie doesn’t find out what HER problem is (because both sides of the connection will have BIG LESSONS to learn – that’s why they met), she will be stuck and will be spending her time in spiritual forums, forever seeking answers…

However, we can progress on to the next movie, Sleepless in Seattle 3, if she seeks REAL help and makes some big changes.

Annie can consult someone who can read energy and tell her what her KARMA or LESSON is! She can then learn some energy techniques to transcend her issues. Then she will be happy and free!

Let’s say Annie’s lesson is that she has CONTROL issues. She has always been so controlling in every part of her life. Society will even tell us that this is a “good” thing, but this is not actually true. Annie controls to the extent that she needs to avoid many situations in order to maintain control, because otherwise she cannot handle the emotions that the lack of control brings up. If Annie does energy work that deals with those emotions, she won’t need to control (lesson learnt).

Suddenly, she doesn’t pine for Sam so much. Wow… she isn’t always thinking about him! Wow… she can’t feel him so much any more! Wow… she is living in the moment! Wow.. she doesn’t NEED him any more!!

So Annie has found happiness from within… which is often why we are sent these types of connections. The universe takes away what we think we need… until we discover that we didn’t need it after all.

After she has done the work, maybe Sam will come back declaring his undying love for her. Or maybe he won’t. Either way, Annie is happy and is whole within herself and no longer spends her time looking for answers, or hiding away in spiritual forums. She no longer needs answers… because the answer is herself.