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Sleepless in Seattle 2 and soul connections: What happened next?

I’ve just rewatched the movie Sleepless in Seattle for the first time since it came out in 1993. When I first watched it I was in high school and I had not yet experienced a soul connection, so for me this was the first time I had watched it since having experienced some powerful connections of my own.

I was stunned at how accurate the portrayal of a soul connection (twin flame, whatever you want to label it) was.

It portrayed all the synchronicities (those “meaningful coincidences”) that showed Sam and Annie that they were dealing with something extraordinary.

It portrayed how they loved each other before they had even met.

It portrayed how even though they had not met, they were obsessed with each other. They couldn’t stop thinking about each other! They thought they were crazy.

It portrayed how even Sam’s son was instrumental in them meeting (which happened to me with my own son).

It portrayed how when they finally did meet face to face, no words were needed – they just started at each other in awe. Yep, been there…

But the movie finishes as soon as they meet for the first time. So, what would have happened next?

Based on what usually happens with these connections – and remembering that we only meet soul connections/twin flames when it is time to CHANGE because we’ve got serious lessons to learn –  this is how Sleepless in Seattle 2 would have gone down:

Sam and Annie would have had a blissful few months together. They would have realised they just “knew” each other. They would have felt like “home” for each other. The sex would have been out of this world.

They also would have triggered each other. All their fears would have come up. It would have been like looking in a mirror, and maybe sometimes they wouldn’t like what they saw.

Just when things were going SO WELL, just when the love was growing stronger and stronger (despite them feeling it couldn’t possibly get any more wonderful/passionate), BOOM! One of them would have freaked out and RAN AWAY.

Let’s say it was Sam who ran. All his fears would have come up – his fear of abandonment (his wife had died, after all), his feeling that he was not good enough for Annie… that she deserved more (because he feels he’s not worthy of her), his feeling of loss of control (this is the big one!!) Sam feels like he cannot control his emotions – they are so huge. So he DOES A RUNNER.

Annie is left shocked. What was wrong with Sam? Didn’t he love her?? Did he just lie about his feelings all this time?

His actions said he didn’t care, but in her heart she knew he did.

So she tries to pull him… tries to get him to come back. He comes back for a time, but the same thing happens again. He freaks out and RUNS. This time for good… he won’t answer any of Annie’s calls.

Months have gone by. Sam has not said a word. So Annie starts to go a little crazy. Her heart says Sam loves her but her head says “but he has gone!” Annie begins to consult psychics and fortune tellers, hoping that she can gain some control over the situation. And trying to get to the bottom of Sam’s behaviour. One fortune teller will say “oh he loves you, he is coming back!” The next fortune teller says “he doesn’t care about you”. What???

Then Annie makes a discovery – she finds out that Sam is dating another woman and has asked her to marry him!

Annie finally falls into a big pit of despair. She hits rock bottom. Everything she has ever dreamt of has been ripped away from her. Her chance to be happy with her one and only twin flame/soul mate is gone. Everything she thought she needed had been taken away from her.

She continues to seek out fortune tellers. They keep giving her mixed messages. She is finding it hard to function. She is not really “living”, just existing.

Sleepless in Seattle 2 can span YEARS if Annie doesn’t do what she needs to do (that is, learn her lesson). It can turn into Groundhog Day if she’s not careful. If Annie doesn’t find out what HER problem is (because both sides of the connection will have BIG LESSONS to learn – that’s why they met), she will be stuck and will be spending her time in spiritual forums, forever seeking answers…

However, we can progress on to the next movie, Sleepless in Seattle 3, if she seeks REAL help and makes some big changes.

Annie can consult someone who can read energy and tell her what her KARMA or LESSON is! She can then learn some energy techniques to transcend her issues. Then she will be happy and free!

Let’s say Annie’s lesson is that she has CONTROL issues. She has always been so controlling in every part of her life. Society will even tell us that this is a “good” thing, but this is not actually true. Annie controls to the extent that she needs to avoid many situations in order to maintain control, because otherwise she cannot handle the emotions that the lack of control brings up. If Annie does energy work that deals with those emotions, she won’t need to control (lesson learnt).

Suddenly, she doesn’t pine for Sam so much. Wow… she isn’t always thinking about him! Wow… she can’t feel him so much any more! Wow… she is living in the moment! Wow.. she doesn’t NEED him any more!!

So Annie has found happiness from within… which is often why we are sent these types of connections. The universe takes away what we think we need… until we discover that we didn’t need it after all.

After she has done the work, maybe Sam will come back declaring his undying love for her. Or maybe he won’t. Either way, Annie is happy and is whole within herself and no longer spends her time looking for answers, or hiding away in spiritual forums. She no longer needs answers… because the answer is herself.




Energy work, Soul connections, soul mate, twin flame, Uncategorized

Guilty of being swayed by looks

I am going to be very honest here. I have a history of putting up with bad behaviour if the guy is hot.


Yes… it is true, and I have only just realised it and changed my ways!

Looking back, one of my soul connections a couple of years ago treated me badly (lying, having a wife and not telling me – heck, he had a pregnant wife and didn’t tell me). And I was still tempted to jump into his bed. Why? Because he was actually the hottest man I had ever seen.

In the end, sense and boundaries prevailed – I sent him packing and didn’t dally with him once I found out he had a wife. But oh man was I tempted…

Then, along came HUGE soul connection #2 (many would call him my twin flame but I don’t do labels), and it was clear that the feelings were HUGE between us… but he also treated me badly. He had a fiancee in the background and didn’t tell me. And it was SO tempting to let these things slide when you’re in the throes of NEED. Needing a relationship with them…

It’s only since I refreshed my energy work disciplines that I no longer need him, and can see what he was doing – keeping all his options open but at the same time, taking away the options of everyone else (myself and his fiancee) by not being honest about the  situation.

Some unscrupulous hot guys (and girls) are used to getting what they want and they can often treat people poorly – because we let them! Our egos like being with someone attractive and sometimes we will bend the rules (and our boundaries) for them so we can lap up a bit more of it. The same goes for soul connections/twin flames/insert misleading label. We WANT to be with them so we put up with more… but in doing this, we GIVE OUR POWER AWAY. We become impotent and we slowly start to rely on them for our happiness. But happiness can only come from within, not from outside (eg relationship, job, situation, material things).

I have recently had a chance to assert my newly strengthened boundaries. I was chatting to a hot guy and it became clear he just wanted some gratification (“send me a pic”). Ummm NO thanks. I’m looking for something deeper.



And he’s gone…

Good 🙂


Energy work, Soul connections, soul mate, twin flame, Uncategorized

STOP the twin flame misery

I am feeling so frustrated. I just visited a spiritual forum and read a few posts written by people who have experienced a big connection (call it what you will, twin flame etc). And they are still clinging to the connection and pining for the relationship. It made me frustrated, since it doesn’t have to be that way! Each of us is whole… each of us has everything we need inside ourselves to be happy and fulfilled. It’s just that sometimes the universe sends us someone who seems to be the answer to all our prayers… they give us the love and relationship we’ve been dreaming of, but then the universe takes them away (eg running). But it takes the person away for a very important reason – it makes us look deep inside ourselves to find those answers, to find that what we’ve been looking for all along has been inside us the whole time.

If you truly want to heal, this is what you can do:

1. Ditch the twin flame label – it’s not helpful and will only limit your experience.

2. Go out there and find someone who will teach you energy disciplines so you can balance yourself – you don’t need to depend on a healer for this as a matter of routine. That’s dependency and heck, animals don’t depend on others to remove their emotional junk. They self-heal! And so did we… until society taught us that we shouldn’t feel certain things… then we start to block…

For my recommendation, see here.

3. Stop reading spiritual material – it just feeds the ego and stops us from tapping into our instincts. Animals and kids don’t need to “understand” and neither does your energy.In fact, filling the brain will stop you from living in the moment and being happy.

4. Start living again and enjoy!





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“Only you can know when you’ve met your twin flame”

I have a problem with this phrase.

When you’re in the grips of a passionate soul connection that knocks your socks off and is the most powerful thing you have ever experienced… how can you be sure that there isn’t a more powerful connection around the corner? How could you possibly know that this is the ultimate? Odds are you haven’t experienced it yet!

When I met big soul connection #1, I swore he was “the one”. I searched every twin flame check-list there was and it came up with “tick, tick tick”. Yep… this must be what’s happening! But fast-forward a few years and I experienced an even greater connection. The feeling of love was so huge it made me want to vomit. It would have been easy for me to think, “ahhh… THIS must be my twin flame”… but no. I have learnt that these labels people are slapping on these days are just that – labels. They’re made up and they are popular because the ego likes to do two things: it likes to say “but it’s different for me” and it likes to say “I will whack a label on this so then I don’t have to do any work or change anything, because it’s out of my hands! It’s all my twin’s fault because they’re just not ready. But I am perfect...”

After doing the right energy work I no longer needed the labels… I no longer searched for answers as to why we weren’t together. It wasn’t important any longer. I had found happiness within myself.

If twin flames do exist (and there is actually no evidence for it), and considering they are supposed to be the last incarnation before ascension, don’t you think they would be supremely enlightened people? I am talking Jesus-level wise, compassionate, passionate etc. The kind of person who is kind yet firm, who devotes themselves to helping others, and who does the right thing even when it is hard. I am sure that those people are out there, but I have never met one myself. I am certainly not one of them yet! I have not yet reached Jesus-level wise, sadly, but I do my best.

What I say is usually not popular, because it triggers some people who have invested a lot of time, emotions (and money) into it. And when they hear the truth, they get angry. But I hope that a small part of them listens, and when the anger dies down and when they have gone down the “it’s different for me” path until it reaches its end, maybe they will do something different and REALLY start to heal.

And when a bigger soul connection comes along, before you slap a label on it, think about WHY this is happening to you again and what YOU need to do to transcend it. And also think about whether the label of twin flame really served you, or whether it held you back.


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The search for happiness is over!

You’ve surely heard people say to you “happiness comes from within”, and you have possibily nodded and agreed, or nodded and quietly disagreed (because it hasn’t worked for you so far. Where is that darn happiness that’s supposed to be inside me?).

The reason why this statement is so common is because it is actually true. But most people who say it are not even living it themselves… it is some kind of pipedream to aspire to, an almost unachievable goal. And somehow we are all instinctively aware that it is a goal we should be achieving but it hasn’t happened for us yet.

But it is achievable… and the key to it is energy work.

When I look around me, I see people searching for happiness in all the wrong places: jobs, relationships, a house, a car, the latest gadget, other material things… even seemingly innocent things like holidays. But this search is a neverending hamster wheel and it will never work. If we choose this route, we will be forever searching.

When I am on top of my energetic disciplines, I feel content and truly happy, usually regardless of what is happening around me. I don’t need extravagances, I don’t need adventures, I don’t need much at all. I am content to potter around the house, feel the sun on my face (or hear the rain outside) and I don’t have a need to create adventure or anything dramatic. This is how animals live, and I have to say they seem a whole lot happier and more content than we humans do.

Steve Gunn told me once that extravagance feeds the ego and simplicity nurtures the soul. And every day I see proof of this.

I have just come back from a big European trip with my son, and from the beginning it was clear to me that this kind of trip was a real trip for the ego (as opposed to the soul) and in a way, it was just ticking off boxes (been there, tick!) which is all ego, but my soul would have been just as happy at home weeding the garden. It was a big realisation, and I also realised that this was not making me happy at all and what I would rather be doing was using more of my time to help people (for example, writing this blog as a way to help people, and volunteering in the community). It really shone a light on my priorities.

And I saw this reflected in my son, who is 9. He enjoyed/tolerated many aspects of the trip, but what really floated his boat was when we visited a cat sanctuary in Rome…  for him it was the highlight of the whole five-week trip – because it spoke to his soul, whereas the ruins and the bustle of Rome just spoke to the ego, which is thankfully still not a huge influence on him.

We have created a society where we search outwards for happiness and fulfilment, but it is a merry-go-round. But happiness comes when we jump off the ride, when we go back to the simple things. HOWEVER, the most important part is this: we only start to yearn for the simple things once we clean up our energy and start to ignore the monkey on all our backs, the one that tells us that we need the car or the job or the boyfriend to be happy. It’s only then that we can appreciate the simplicity in life. This is where happiness lies.



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Don’t wait till the emotional volcano erupts

I was talking to a friend today about emotions, and it reminded me of the difference between adults and children (and animals).
When a child or an animal feels emotions, they feel it fully. They’re not scared of it. If they’re angry or sad they express it, then the emotion is gone… the next moment they could be laughing.
But as we’re growing up we humans are taught that certain emotions are “bad” and that we shouldn’t feel them. So we learn (very unhealthily) to block those emotions. But they linger, so we end up sulking or being in a “bad mood”… which is really just a manifestation of blocked energy/emotions. It’s not a natural state!
And we bury the emotions, but they will rear their head another day… like a volcano erupting.
But we don’t have to be like this. We can do energy work – the right kind of energy work – and we can learn to live in a state of flow, where emotions come and go and they don’t become blocked and cause dysfunction. We can live in a state where we don’t fear any emotion.
So do the energy work to release the emotional junk. If you want to know who I worked with to achieve such results, click here.

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I was an addict. A romance addict.

Valentine’s Day 2018 has just ended and it reminded me of how I used to be.

I used to crave romance. I wanted someone to worship me. I wanted to be put on a pedestal. I wanted the heart-rending passion that came with a strong connection. I wanted to be pursued by someone I loved/was attracted to. I wanted men to dream about me and crave me. It was all about me, really.

When I look back, I can see that it was just a function of the ego – the part of the ego that wants validation and wants other people to worship it. In essence, it is not a very healthy way to be.

And it gives our power away to the other person. When all your fantasies rely on someone else doing something (in this case, the other person pursuing/craving/wanting/lusting), it is not from the soul. This kind of need is from the ego. And you give your power away to them. You’re no longer centred.

What can we do to get out of this mode?

As always… the answer is energy work and getting rid of our blocked emotional luggage. If you’re not sure where to start, read this.

So, Valentine’s Day 2018 was quite different for me from Valentine’s Day 2017. Last year I was craving soul mate number 2. I was constantly wondering whether he would contact me (he didn’t), and I was unhealthily consulting the tarot, asking what was happening with him. It is the biggest connection I have had. He ran (and got engaged to someone else). Once again, what I “needed” (the relationship and the worshipping) was taken away from me… and it showed me that I really didn’t need it to begin with.

This year, I barely gave Valentine’s Day a second thought. After tightening up my energy work disciplines (you can read about that here), I am better than ever. I no longer crave a relationship or the thrills associated with it – I can now see that this is just an unhealthy function of the ego. I am just happy and powerful being me, without needing anyone else worshipping me. Just as the universe intended…